1. MOST OF YOU CHIEFLY NEED ENCOURAGEMENT TO TRY. Go out and try to meet and pick up single women at all of the varied places where men and women come together. Most men who are unsuccessful in love and romance chiefly need ego-bolstering and suggestions of places to look. 2. DO NOT OVERLOOK ANY CHANNEL FOR MEETING AND PICKING UP WOMEN. Until you find what you want and are satisfied, you must use every possible and conceivable channel for meeting women. 3. EVERY DATE - EVERY WOMAN - CAN HELP YOU DEVELOP MORE SKILL AND POLISH. Every woman you meet and go out with can richly add to your experience and self-development if you look upon it in this way. Don't bury yourself in a movie on the first date. Talk to her about herself, draw out all her interests, desires, crucial life experiences. Share your own experiences with her. From each woman you can learn to speak more fluently, with greater ease; you can learn more about the psychology of women; you can develop increasing skill in making her like you and in enjoying your company. 4. JUDICIOUSLY MIX TENDERNESS. According to some psychologists, the need for expressing and receiving tenderness is even more frustrated and inhibited than the sex drive. Every woman needs and appreciates tenderness, and you need to express and receive it. Practice it. You will also find that the woman who wants a strong, dominating man responds best to a judicious counter-point of tenderness and almost brutal domination. 5. YOU DON'T HAVE TO BE A WOMAN TO PRACTICE GOOD GROOMING, AND YOU SHOULD REGARD ANY SHAME OR EMBARRASSMENT ASSOCIATED WITH IT AS "SHEER IDIOCY!" Don't be afraid of diminishing your masculinity by making yourself more physically attractive to single women through good grooming. Styled hair, a close clean shave before you go out, aftershave cologne, deodorant, frequent bathing, daily change of underclothing, socks, shirts, use of an effective hair dressing to keep your hair combed the way you want it to look...all these things generally make almost any man more physically desirable to the opposite sex. Only a rigid and false interpretation of the male and female role make many males guilty about such fastidiousness. 6. STRIVE TO DEVELOP AND LEARN TO PROJECT A QUALITY OF INTENSE FEELING. A passionate interest in life and people, a quality of "excitement: conveyed by one's enthusiasm and intense involvement with life...a rich savoring of the present moment. |
